LOVE OR MONEY? 🌹 💸

I actually believe it has been a disservice to women that we have been told that sex for money is something bad — and that we must, at all costs, distance ourselves from being called a whore.

Because in our attempt to distance ourselves from that idea, I believe that many women have completely forgotten the exchange that takes place between man and woman when we have sex.

That there is something powerful, healing, and sacred that we women carry in our womb.

And that it is, in fact, worth its weight in gold.

I believe we can learn a lot from the way priestesses approach sacred sites in nature. You carry an intention when you enter sacred land. You ask for permission before you enter. And you leave an offering.

I view a woman's womb the same way.

As sacred land. A temple.

Something you ask for permission to enter — and where you arrive with a gift at the gate.

What that gift should be, you as a woman must assess yourself based on the man you meet and what you desire from him. But I believe it is important to be conscious of the exchange.

Because with modern dating apps, it has become almost normal to have sex after the first date. Perhaps after a dinner. Perhaps after a beer.

And the intention can be incredibly blurred.

Maybe you think: If I go to bed with him, he will like me.

Maybe you hope that it is the beginning of a love story.

Or maybe you are just having sex because it feels good.

Everything is fine.

But you must know what you are giving, and what you want back.

Because when you have sex with a man, you give him access to something from your treasure chest. From your womb. From your feminine energy.

So, of course, you must also expect an exchange.

Whether it is gold and riches in a completely physical sense — money, jewelry, financial security — or if, for you, it is enough with a fantastic evening – or is it protection, provision, knowledge, commitment, or love.

I believe that women largely give through our womb energy, love, and feminine power, while men have traditionally given through the material, protection, and knowledge.

And I believe it is important that we become more conscious of that dynamic.

Because otherwise, as a woman, you can end up feeling empty and exploited after sex. Not necessarily because the sex itself was wrong, but because you thought the exchange meant something else.

You might have thought the sex was the beginning of a love story.

And then he ghosts you afterwards.

Therefore: Become very conscious of what you want with the man you let in.

Do you just want sex?

Do you want to get to know him?

Do you want a love affair?

Do you want to marry him?

Because if you want love and partnership, I believe he has to go through a completely different journey. Then you don't just open the gate because he invited you to dinner and said the right things.

Then he must go through the three trials.

I will tell you more about those in the next post.

But here comes the controversial point:

I actually believe that sex for money can be a sacred act.

Not because a woman's body can be bought.

But because the man gives a concrete offering to the woman and acknowledges that an exchange is taking place.

It can be a way to get straight to sex, without needing to wrap it in the illusion of love.

If the man does not offer love, he can offer gold.

And I do not think we should demonize women for accepting it.

In fact, I think it can be more honest than a man who thinks he can walk straight through the gate because he paid for a good dinner — all while leading the woman to believe his intention might be love.

As if women are automatically supposed to spread their legs for his 9-second erection just because they were taken out.

No.

If you want a man who knows how to treat a woman, you have to know yourself that you are valuable.

That your womb energy is valuable.

That your treasure chest is not just something you hand out to poor suitors or men who are unwilling to sacrifice anything to gain access to you.

If you want to be met by a man who sees you as the portal to the divine — as the sacred made physical — then you must also know and set your own value.

For how can we really talk about a fully conscious "yes" to sex if we don't even dare to talk about the intention behind the sex and the exchange that takes place?

If a man just takes without giving — neither materially, emotionally, nor by sacrificing anything of himself — the exchange can feel empty.

So if you are tired of boys who treat women as if they are ordering a pizza from a delivery guy, then stop handing out your treasure chest between your legs to anyone who gives you a little attention.

Money. Jewelry. Gold. Jewels. Provision. Protection. Financial security.

These are also valid forms of exchange.

And when the intention is clear, both parties know what the encounter is about.

But if what you desire is love, partnership, and marriage, then the price is something completely different.

Because there, he cannot buy access to your body.

There, he must conquer your heart.