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What your Vagina is Telling You

There are many ways your vagina can talk to you. Sensations, itching, tingling, expansion, and tension.

And also through how wet she is. So let's be clear, your vagina's wetness doesn't lie.

Natural Wetness

When a woman is physically, emotionally, spiritually, psychologically, and holistically aroused and ready, she is wet. 

Lubricant and Wetness

While lubricant has become accepted and normalized in society, just because something has become normal doesn't mean it's natural or good. However, when we don't feel we are wet enough, or we may experience dryness, many use lubricant. While lubricant can be practical and help reduce discomfort during sexual activity, it's important to understand that it is not a substitute for the natural wetness the body produces during sexual arousal. It can actually do your vagina a great disservice, because when you override your vagina's natural wetness, you override your vagina's most powerful messages to you.

The Importance of Listening to Your Vagina

Listening to your vagina and its messages is crucial for becoming wet and achieving a healthy and satisfying sexual experience, as well as a deeper connection to your body. The vagina is not just an organ connected to sexual pleasure; it can also serve as a source of wisdom and intuition. Wetness comes naturally when we listen to our vagina and try to understand her signals. This relates not only to sex but also to your other relationships and activities in your life. Being wet or not wet can truly highlight how you feel in your life and in your relationships, because our body does not lie. It is completely honest and tries to guide you. It's just our job to listen.

Our vagina speaks to us in many ways. It can be through wetness or dryness, tension or relaxation, or even through emotional reactions during intimate moments. So, if you use lubricant to have frictionless sex, you will create disharmony and effectively ignore your vagina's messages. This will cause her to stop trusting you.

So when you allow yourself to be penetrated, even if you are not fully wet, you will override your vagina's boundaries, and she will not be able to continue opening up to more pleasure. If you don't listen to and honor your vagina, you cannot develop on your path to sexual empowerment. But the more you listen to her and honor her yes and no, and create safety for her, the more she will have room to open up.

Wetness is not always a sign of being ready for penetration.

But now it might get a little more advanced, because sometimes wetness isn't always a sign of being ready for penetration. Because wetness is just the first step, but ideally you should be completely dripping wet and longing for penetration before it's truly pleasurable to be penetrated.

Haven't you also experienced being wet at first and allowing yourself to be penetrated by your loved one, but then midway you lose your wetness? But you just keep having sex and being penetrated despite the dryness. But if you really tune into what your vagina is trying to tell you, you might discover that the wetness disappeared because your partner might have lost some presence, the intimacy faded a bit, and the emotional connection you desired might not have been there after all. So feel into that.

It can take courage to listen inwardly in these moments and act on it. But to truly honor your vagina, the best thing to do is to stop and feel into what you need, and then ask for it. That is truly what is needed for more satisfying sex. When you are truly authentic to yourself and your needs at the most subtle level, your innermost and deepest desires will be satisfied, and your yes will also become much easier to hear, because you have the opportunity to say no when you need to say no.

You gain so much when you start listening to your pussy and to her yes and no.

Of course, there is a temporary benefit to overriding your no. For example, you will satisfy your partner, you won't risk rejecting them, but in the long run, it can result in you shutting down much more and experiencing dryness at a much deeper level, which can result in things like tension, vaginismus, pain, and some also believe that things like lichen sclerosis come from not honoring your vagina. So starting to listen to your pussy's yeses in all situations makes so much sense in the long run, because instead of shutting down, you will open up to so much more pleasure and joy and satisfying orgasms, and also better health.

And then not just talking about what happens when you listen to your vagina in all other situations in your life. So when it comes to making big decisions, choosing a career, home, relationships, you can actually ask her about anything. And she will answer you with her level of wetness.

You can actually be wet all the time if you live in alignment with your authentic self. If you notice that you are dry, you can try to tune in and ask your vagina what she needs and in what areas you are off course in your life.

So it's so normal for women to think that something must be wrong with them if they're not wet enough or have trouble getting wet. We can quickly believe that something is wrong with our hormones, or we have some kind of disorder and need medical help and hormone creams and change our diet or something. But you can trust that there is nothing wrong with you; it's just your vagina sharing a message with you, and it's your job to listen to it.

Sometimes she will tell you something of great importance, for example, to quit your job or leave a relationship. So following your vagina's guidance takes great courage. And that's what's needed to truly own your authentic self and show the world who you really are.

Vaginal Wetness After Menopause

There are probably some women out there who won't believe this and will argue that when you reach menopause, hormones change in the body, and it's more normal to become dry. But I guarantee you that if you use your vagina as a guide and as an oracle, which she is, and listen to her, you will not lose your wetness.

Nor will you lose it if you use her. That is, if you are disconnected from your vagina and don't strengthen your pelvic floor or use her, your vagina will weaken over time. Your vaginal tissue will become thinner, and there will be less blood circulation and less lubrication. So all the exercises you can do with a jade egg or other yoni egg will help you connect pleasurably with your pussy.

So my challenge to you is to throw away your lubricant and start listening to your pussy, because she doesn't lie.