How to use an obsidian crystal dildo for de-armouring & shadow work

Black obsidian is a very powerful protective stone, perfect for use as a dildo for vaginal de-armouring and shadow work, and I'd like to tell you about it.

Why is obsidian the ultimate crystal for shadow work?

Obsidian is volcanic glass, formed when a volcanic eruption occurs, and the flowing lava hits something cold and cools rapidly. From this powerful explosion from Mother Earth, the obsidian glass is created, and the stone still carries the energy of the volcano's immense power, coming from deep within the earth.

From my own experience, black obsidian is pure Kali energy. It is the strongest, most bombastic, and powerful stone when it comes to self-reflection and deep cleansing of both mind and body. It reveals the places within you where you still hold onto blockages, old patterns, or suppressed emotions, because it wants to bring the truth to light – even when it hurts.

It's like the strict but loving grandmother who tells you the truth because she knows that in the long run, it's what's best for you. It might hurt in the moment, but she says it out of love, and one day you'll understand why she was right.

Obsidian is associated with what is in darkness. When you look at obsidian, you will see that it has a reflection, which very subtly symbolizes that you can see your shadows in the obsidian.

Obsidian crystal dildo for vaginal massage & de-armouring

Therefore, in my opinion, black obsidian is the perfect crystal dildo for vaginal de-armouring.

De-armouring means "disarming". It is based on the understanding that throughout life, we can build up an emotional and physical armour – a kind of protection – in the body and, in this case, in the vagina. When we have sex, even if we don't want to, experience boundary-crossing situations, traumatic experiences, or go through life's emotional ups and downs, the body can tense up to protect itself. Over time, these tensions can settle in the tissue as chronic pain, numbness, hypersensitivity, or stress incontinence. Vaginal numbness or pain is not a natural state. The vagina is naturally sensitive and orgasmic, but many shut down due to "armour".

De-armouring is a practice where you gently massage and work with tension in and around the body and pelvic area, so the body can gradually let go.

I find it incredibly powerful to use an obsidian crystal dildo for vaginal massage and de-armouring because its energy already supports the release of sexual and emotional bonds. It goes to the root of the problem. It invites you to confront the feelings, beliefs, and experiences that may have been hidden away for many years.

Therefore, I find it particularly good if you want to work with pelvic tension that stems from past traumas, boundary-crossing experiences, or sexual beliefs that no longer serve you.

Beginner? Be careful with the obsidian dildo

Your vagina is the direct gateway to your sexual subconscious, where all your shadow sides reside. Every time we enter the vagina, we go deeper into ourselves. We open the door to a hidden underworld of emotions, because the vagina is the receptive pole in the female body and can carry what we haven't felt or given space to: suppressed emotions, shame, guilt, sorrow, and old traumas.

When you work with an obsidian crystal dildo, you can experience an even deeper connection to this underworld of emotions. Obsidian is a powerful shadow worker that invites the hidden into the light, so it can be seen, felt, and released.

If you carry many unresolved traumas or tensions in the pelvic area, the energy of obsidian can feel very intense. Especially in the beginning. Therefore, it is important to feel if you are ready to work with the deeper layers of yourself and if you can contain what may come up.

There is no rush. Listen to your body, your nervous system, and your vagina. Go only as deep as you feel safe.

When you invite obsidian into your vaginal massage and de-armouring practice, I find that its energy can enhance the process and support going even deeper into connection with oneself.

But don't be afraid of the darkness!

In the darkness, you find your light

But one should not be afraid of obsidian or darkness. On the contrary. It is only when we dare to meet the hidden sides of ourselves with love and curiosity that we can become more whole. Beneath the shame, fear, and old tensions, there is often an enormous life force, pleasure, and erotic energy just waiting to be awakened. For example, cervical orgasms, which are truly deep within our innermost, darkest part of the vagina.

You can also gain a much greater connection to something much higher and deeper in the darkness, namely your uterus. You actually have the entire universe within you, because your uterus has great wisdom and creative powers that are so magical and fantastic and are connected to the very forces of creation in the universe.

You can connect to the divine right there through your own pussy with the help of your obsidian dildo. You can invoke your ancestors, guides, goddesses, and gods through your pussy. You can do it in a complete ritual with incense, music, and lit candles, if that makes sense to you. It can be very magical and be a way to get out of your head and into your deep sexual subconscious, where anything is possible, and where your imagination, playfulness, and your pleasurable magic can be set free.

How to use an obsidian crystal dildo for erotic shadow work

When you work with an obsidian crystal dildo, self-pleasure can become a ritual. You can light candles, use incense, play music, or invoke your ancestors, guides, or goddesses, if that resonates with you. It becomes an invitation to step out of your head and into your body – into your erotic subconscious, where your imagination, playfulness, and feminine magic are allowed to unfold.

When you begin your vaginal massage, you can start by gently massaging around the vaginal opening. Take your time to feel and find the areas where you experience tension, soreness, or numbness.

When you find a tense spot, press gently into the tissue. Take a deep breath, maintain a calm and present pressure, and then gently push outwards against the dildo with your pelvic floor, as if you were giving birth to a baby. Then release, exhale, and let your body relax before possibly sinking a little deeper into the tissue.

Always let your body dictate the pace. Go very slowly, and feel when your pussy gives you a 100% yes to go further in. When you feel your body inviting you deeper, you can guide your obsidian dildo further into the vagina. Here, you continue in the same way by gently massaging around, finding tense areas, maintaining a gentle pressure, pushing against the dildo, and then releasing.

When you massage with your obsidian dildo, don't just feel the physical sensations. Also, feel what emotions are hidden beneath the tension or numbness. Imagine that the obsidian gently draws out everything that no longer serves you – shame, guilt, sorrow, pain, anger, or old emotional bonds.

Instead of pushing feelings away, meet them. Silently say to yourself: Yes. Yes. Yes. Make space for what you feel. Allow it to be there, without wanting to change it.

Imagine that your obsidian dildo and your sexual energy embrace everything you encounter with unconditional love. That you are not trying to fight anything, but simply lovingly holding space for it until the body is ready to let go.

Let your breathing, your movement, and your sound be part of the process. Breathe deeply in and out through a relaxed mouth as you massage. If the body wants to sigh, cry, moan, or move, let it. The more you dare to let go of control, the easier the trapped emotions can move through you and leave the body.

The Cervix – the gateway to your feminine power and pleasure

When you enter your vagina, you connect with your deepest, most hidden emotions and traumas. The deeper you go into your vagina, the further into the cave you go, the deeper you will also delve into your sexual subconscious, where all your shadow sides live. Your deepest, most hidden, suppressed, and forgotten sexual shadows are found there. Your shame, guilt, pain, fear, and suppressed desires, erotic energy, and emotions are in the vagina, and the deeper you go, the deeper you go down that rabbit hole, if you will.

The cervix is very powerful, so it is also the place where your most potent power, juice, and pleasure are found, so it is not just the bad things that are found within the vagina and cervix. Beneath all the suppression and armour lies an abundance of pleasure, and your feminine primal power and creativity are hidden there, and you can reclaim them by using an obsidian crystal dildo.

Erotic shadow work with an obsidian crystal dildo

When you enter the vagina, this is where you can heal very deep wounds and very deep subconscious shadow sides of your erotic nature that hold shame and guilt. You can heal very deep wounds that are not even yours, but which you have inherited from your mother and your grandmother and all the matriarchs before them. It is when you enter your vagina that you discover how powerful you are as a woman, and where you can connect to your core of who you are and where you come from, and what kind of woman you wish to become.

Much of the armour that has settled in the vagina comes from outside ourselves, and because we rarely go in and work with the vaginal tissue and nurture and care for this hidden part of ourselves, many of these external beliefs, good and bad, or the sexual experiences you have had, will reside in our vagina for a very long time.

But by regularly using an obsidian dildo, you will be able to loosen up and shed light on your shadow sides and accept those parts of yourself, so you can re-establish, heal, and integrate your connection to your whole self and your entire erotic nature as a woman. So you accept and love all sides of yourself and thereby stand much stronger in yourself and in your sexuality as a very powerful, juicy, and sexually liberated woman.

How erotic shadow work strengthens your feminine power

When black obsidian has helped you bring hidden blockages to the surface, something new begins to take root.

As you release old tensions, shame, guilt, and emotional bonds, you also get closer to your own erotic core. Erotic shadow work is not just about releasing what hurts – it's about reclaiming those parts of yourself that you may have suppressed or forgotten. Your desire. Your sensuality. Your life force. Your pleasure.

The more light you bring into your erotic shadow sides, the more whole you become. You begin to stand stronger in yourself as a woman because you no longer push parts of yourself away, but instead meet them with love and acceptance.

Black obsidian helps you release blocked energy in your root, leaving you with a deep sense of grounding, protection, and inner strength. When the energy is allowed to flow freely again, many experience increased sensitivity and pleasure in the vagina, while also feeling more at home in their own body and erotic nature.

That's why I love working with black obsidian. For me, it's not just a stone that helps you let go – it also helps you remember who you are. It invites you home to your own erotic essence, where your feminine power, creativity, and life force have always been.

How to use an obsidian crystal dildo on the whole body

You can also meditate with your obsidian dildo over the place on your body where you feel trauma, fear, tensions, or emotional knots. You can hold it over that area of your body, e.g., solar plexus or buttocks or stomach, and then just let it rest there and breathe into it and imagine how the obsidian's energy is working.

You can also massage with the wand and even press into the area.

You can inhale, press in, hold the point while you press out, and exhale, press a little deeper. For example, if it's around the navel, you can press out with your abdominal muscles. It might be a bit harder to do on the thighs or buttocks. But wherever you feel fear and blockages in your body, give it your attention with your obsidian dildo.

Why can an obsidian crystal dildo break?

Obsidian is a vacuum cleaner; it's like a sponge that sucks in all negative energy, so you need to remember to cleanse it energetically from time to time. In fact, it can even break in half or explode if it absorbs too much energy without being cleansed. So it's good to be aware of that. Obsidian is also more fragile than, for example, nephrite jade, so you need to be extra careful with your obsidian dildo and not throw it around or drop it on the floor, because it can break.

How to cleanse your obsidian crystal dildo

I really like to cleanse my obsidian and my other crystals with incense, for example sage, and by letting them bathe in salt water overnight. And when there is a full moon, I put them out under the moon and let them absorb all the good moon rays. It also just connects you with nature in a very magical way and also allows you to connect with the moon's feminine energy much more. And then, of course, you will wash it with soap and water after you have used it.

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