When your body feels closed off, and how to open it again
Many women walk around with tension, numbness, or a feeling of being a bit "disconnected" from their bodies... without quite knowing what they can do about it.
It can feel frustrating. Empty. Lonely. As if something is missing.
As if the connection to the body (and to one's joy of life, vitality, and pleasure) is no longer there.
Your body is not closed off. It's just waiting to be met.
But the body can actually relearn to feel.
When we start working consciously with the body, we can slowly release the tensions that have accumulated – both physically and emotionally.
My journey from numbness to connection with the body
For me, that journey started several years ago. At that time, I was completely numb and disconnected from my own pussy.
The first time I experienced a real opening in the connection to my pelvis was with a healer in Thailand, who put me in a kind of trance.
I clearly remember how, in my mind's eye, I saw my ovaries light up. As if there was life, energy, and consciousness there that I had never connected with before.
It was a wild experience. And at the same time, it felt like coming home to something I have always had within me.
When I felt something greater
Later – when I first received a yoni mapping from a female practitioner in Denmark – I experienced something even deeper.
For the first time, I felt my pelvis as a portal to something greater.
It wasn't just physical.
It was emotional.
Energetic.
Spiritual.
I met three sides of myself:
The Maiden.
The Mother.
And the Crone.
As different layers of my own feminine energy that suddenly became alive and accessible and brought deep messages from my womb to me.
In retrospect, perhaps it was even Hecate I met.
A whole universe in the body
In 2019, I trained as a yoni mapper, and that's where things really took off.
Through the yoni mapping treatments, it felt like meeting a whole universe, a whole queen's realm between my legs.
And not just for me – but also for the women I worked with, who experienced meeting sides of themselves they thought no longer existed.
Your sexuality is not broken
What I want to say with this is: Even if you feel disconnected right now, your sexuality is not "broken". Your life force flows through you. You are an orgasmic being – and you will remain so until you are no longer here.
The body remembers everything
I have experienced how the body can store so much:
Both pleasure, life force, and deep connection...
but also tensions and experiences that have become stuck.
And it's important to say:
The bad experiences.
Trauma.
All the times you said yes when you should have said no.
The pain you have experienced.
Maybe an old accident.
Or the suppression of your true self.
All of this can settle in the body and create the tensions that are currently holding you back from fully feeling.
There is nothing wrong with you
So, it's not that you are "disconnected," not really....
You just need to start becoming aware of what you are saying yes to in your life – which you should actually be saying no to.
Begin to release the layers of tension ("armor") that are suppressing your sexual life force.
Because there is a flow of energy within you that will always be there.
But it can be blocked by layers of suppression, inauthenticity, trauma, anxiety, lack of love, grief, shame, and guilt.
...or maybe just by sitting too much and putting pressure on your lower back and your pussy(!!!)
(A chair is, honestly, not a very orgasmic invention btw.)
A tool that can support you
Having said that:
You don't need treatment to create that connection.
You can do it yourself.
One of the tools I work with myself is a glass wand like the Calypso Cervix Wand.
It is designed for gentle pelvic floor massage, where you work to create more space in the body and gently stimulate the vaginal walls.
What I particularly love about it is that it's long enough for you to hold one end while calmly and mindfully exploring with the other.
When tensions release, both blood circulation and nerve connection improve – and this is often where the change begins.
When tensions release, the body begins to open up again. Many experience that it can support the release of both physical and emotional tensions that may have accumulated in the body over time.
At the same time, working with this beautiful cervical glass wand can help increase sensitivity, so you feel more and thus also open up to deeper, more satisfying orgasms and even squirting orgasms 💗
This wand is an ultimate must-have for any sensual woman who wants to maintain her connection to her sexual center throughout life.
And give it what it has been waiting for all along.
Pssst… (the most important thing is not the tool)
The most important thing is not the tool, but the way you meet yourself.
Because through my work, I have also seen – and experienced myself – that there can be things in the body that need time:
Traumas that have settled in the sex.
Old tensions.
Experiences you might not even know about yet.
Therefore, it is so important that you proceed slowly. That you do not push your body beyond what it is ready for.
Sometimes it doesn't start with inner work, but merely with placing a hand over the lower abdomen. Meditating on your womb. Breathing with Her. This can be incredibly powerful in itself.
If you feel a little "yes" in your body... then listen to it 💗
